I had a delicious and delightful, yet long overdue tea time with a dear friend and my sons yesterday. We went to a tea house that I'd never visited before. Each one of us feasted on banana-coconut-chocolate cake, the colors of the walls and pillows in our tea room, and the presence of those we love.
This morning, my friend sent me a message about some friends she has, who have just become first-time parents to a boy-and-girl pair of twins. The mother asks, "How can I do this?" We are gathering love and strengthening words for them. Feel free to add yours to mine:
Keep them alive, minute to minute. Yourself, too.
Drink lots and lots of water. Eat everything your body tells you to.
Ask for help for the things you don't feel you can get to. Ask often and with force, if necessary (just like the babies do).
Sleep when they sleep.
Do not wake sleeping babies on purpose, if you can possibly help it.
Invite people to come and hold the babies while you take a shower, feed yourself, etc.
Let you mind be blown by the amazingness of new life. Boom. Pow. And go back to bed.
It's all right to be afraid. Just push through it.
There's going to be the next nursing, the next diaper change, the next bath, the next and next and next . . . you'll find your rhythm.
Overthinking in the first few months of their lives is a first-world problem.
There is evening, there is morning, and each day is good.